What do you want to FEEL?

The way to know you’re doing it “right” is that it feels good.* Simple. Yet how many times do we keep trudging through a project, a situation, a relationship because we think we “should”?

My invitation to you: Cut your should list in half. At least. And then cut it some more. Or, as Anthony Robbins puts it, “stop shoulding all over yourself.”

Instead, ask yourself: What makes me FEEL good? How can I have/be/do more of that? Create a “want to feel” list. Then decide how you’re going to go about feeling it.

Here’s a sample list from a client of mine:
Wants to feel: peace, flow, presence, joy
Some of the ways she knows she can reach those states: rollerskating, mindful breathing, smiling, getting outside, connecting with friend at the office, and giving thanks.

Now it’s time for you to FEEL GOOD. The steps:
1) Write your answers to this question: What do I want to feel?
2) Write your answers to this question: How can I connect with those feelings?
3) Take action: Choose 1-3 “ways” (answers to the second question) to do/be/enjoy THIS week. Schedule these “feel good” moments in your calendar.

And if you have a cool *feel good* practice to share, please tell us about it in the comments below!

*I first heard this in a Rochelle Schieck dance video. Talk about *feel good* stuff… Enjoy!




2017-07-20T13:56:34+00:00July 12th, 2016|Blog, SUSTAIN|


  1. Guy Harvey March 22, 2017 at 11:42 pm - Reply

    Have you read the “Desire Map” by Danielle LaPorte – about identifying one’s core desired feelings.
    Mine are:
    I want to feel Vital, Connected, Affluent, Joyful, and Creative.
    Nice blog by the way 🙂

    • cortinc March 23, 2017 at 9:33 am - Reply

      Thanks for sharing, Guy! I haven’t read Danielle LaPorte’s “Desire Map” …but it’s on the list now! 🙂
      Thanks again and have a lovely day!

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